Oceans Apart

Life is a journey. Our experiences shape us and become the compass that determines our path. Accompany me as I explore and understand how trauma affected me, shaped my sense of self, influenced my decisions and made my body sick. Who I am and who I appear to be can sometimes feel like oceans apart. My lighthouse is my fervency for life, passion for change, and belief in my dreams. The blog is my way to make sense, process and ultimately heal. I hope it helps you too.

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Good company in a journey makes the way seem shorter. — Izaak Walton

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RUTH TAYLOR May 19, 2019 at 6:52 pm

looking forward to hearing all about it xx

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During this stressful time, carve out opportunities for connection and vision for the future. Start a bucket list with your family, each day write down one or more things you all want to do, experience, learn, places to visit, people to meet. Fill your bucket and when lol this is over, make it a ritual or tradition by one one to take something out of the bucket and plan how to do it. Take photos of you filling the bucket now, and put them on a family notice board on which you can add the photos of the things you have ticked off Create a powerful memory of how you used this time for something positive ❤️ #bucketlist #lockdown2020 #lockdown #lockdownideas #staypositive #familybonding

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Networking events. Up to recent weeks, I didn’t take part in these events. I’m quite the introvert and although comfortable and confident in socialising, it is a thoroughly exhausting experience. Sensory issues due to past trauma also mean I am overloaded and need time to recover after. So I avoided such events even when I run my past businesses. I attended only obligatory award ceremonies where we were nominated or had won awards. Starting my coaching business has been a step in a different direction. I am helping others walk through challenges, difficulties, fears, obstacles to come unstuck and thrive. This means I too must walk the walk not just talk the talk. I have been setting myself different challenges (watch this space) for my own growth as a human and as a coach. This way I identify with my client, I’m right there with them. So, I started attending networking events and loving it! At first I get the silent panic attack, and walk in to the venue with sweaty palms, racing heart, body trembling, shaky and dizzy. I make myself sit among the other folk and engage in the event and gradually the symptoms fade and I am fully present and participating. Still, I need to recover after usually for the next day too but I’m doing it, I’m exposing myself to discomfort and unfamiliarity and I’m reaping the benefits of overcoming, enjoying the event, connecting at heart level, learning, serving, engaging and having fun. Sometimes the added sweet surprises make it even more worthwhile like meeting others who unschool and run businesses @leonaburtonofficial @sarahauger_official and then you realise you also have a tribe you didn’t even know about. Bonus. So, what are you uncomfortable with? What will you challenge yourself to overcome? Great growth comes from such steps 🌸🦋🌱🥰 #mibanetworking #mumsinbusinessassociation #mumpreneurs #unschoolinglife #unschooling #unconventionallife #facethefear

I was diagnosed with fibromyalgia at 22. Aside from the fact it is an invisible illness, it’s devious in nature. It expresses itself in different variations in different people and as such many sufferers are not believed. I tried living in denial, pretending it wasn’t real, then when bold enough to tell those I thought would love & support me I discovered they didn’t believe me or thought it was all in my head. It’s a lonely journey and many suffer in silence which only worsens the symptoms. I learned eventually to keep quiet about it and manage it as there is no known cure for it. However, the more I am learning about holistic health, mind and brain function, mindset and the effect of trauma on the body, the more determined I am to beat it and celebrate my cure. Trauma and it’s effects on my body/mind/brain have made me work harder, research longer, dig deeper and be even more determined to heal myself. Reading ‘it didn’t start with you’ by @markwolynn helped me recognise the beginning of my trauma journey when I lost my mother aged 5. @markwolynn writes about inherited trauma and through the book I traced the fact that my mother was sent away to boarding school when she was 5 (abandonment) and her mother lost her father as a child (abandonment). The effect of attachment and abandonment trauma was layered and embedded. It explained so much of my emotional pain over the years, the insecurity, the fear of rejection, the people pleasing, the need to be loved and accepted, the feeling of not belonging, not being good enough. That part is in now healed and so I continue as I work through other traumas that happened after. I notice immediately the physical pain in my body when I’m struggling emotionally. Learning to read my body, be aware of my thoughts, tracing them to toxic or negative beliefs has been a critical part of the journey. Looking at my self as a spiritual and physical being helps understand the importance of the holistic approach. Mind body spirit is all connected and when one suffers they all suffer. Taking care of each of those facets of our being is paramount to living fully. #selflove #fibromyalgia #trauma #inheritedtrauma #ptsd

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